Without Gloria…(Gaano Kadalas ang Minsan)

Without Gloria in the Palace how do Filipinos from Luzon, Visayas, and Mindanao feel about it? One writer said, “it’s glorya!”

I asked the same question to a student and this is what he said, “Everybody will be happy; and the Filipinos divided by politics and ravaged by corruption and injustices in the government may unite again and move on to rebuild the future of this country.”

I like his answer but honestly there are some doubts in my heart if this could really happen. On the other hand why don’t we give it a try? I believe there are still millions of Filipinos who are that sincere and desirous to lead this country into fame and progress.

If ever that time comes, I am sure Filipinos will be proud of their country in any part of the world they go. Yes let us not lose our hopes, this country will be great again!

Gaano Kadalas ang Minsan

Isa sa mga kasalang hinangaan ko ay noong ikinasal sina Ben at Luisa (not their real names). Talagang phenomenal ika nga at hindi madaling malimutan. Punong-puno ng ngiti at kagalakan ang mga pusong pinag-isa ng tadhana.

Recently nagkita kami ni Luisa. Tinanong ko si Ben. Mabilis naman ang sagot niya, “Sumakabilang bahay na siya.” Nagulat ako, akala ko patay na si Ben iyon pala ay may bago na siyang pamilya.

“Kanino siya sumama at paano nangyari iyan? Di ba labis-labis ang inyong pagmamahalan kaya nagpakasal kayo kaagad?” Tinanong ko siya.

“Secretary niya. Madalas niyang isama sa mga provincial trips niya. Nagkagustohan.” Ang mabilis naman niyang sagot.

“How sad naman. Ikaw kumosta na?”

Biglang kinakitaan nang matinding kalungkotan ang kanyang mukha. Hindi siya makatingin sa akin ng deretso.

“May boyfriend na ako, kaso married.”

Hindi ako makapaniwala sa aking narinig. “Bakit nagkanon?”

“Bunga na rin siguro ng pangungulila. Pero Seg mukhang mawawala na naman siya sa akin. Nagkabalikan na kasi sila ng kanyang misis.”

“Kumosta ang mga anak ninyo ni Ben?”

“Kinuha niya nang malalamang may boyfriend na ako. Mabait din ang girlfriend niya kaya pumayag na ako.”

“Sa BF mo ngayon may anak ba kayo?”

Nailing siya. “Oo, girl at magdadalawang taon na.”

Sa sobrang kalungkotan naiyak na lang siya. Ako naman ay nakadama rin ng lungkot at awa sa isang kaibigan. Niyakap ko siya habang humahagugol at subsob sa aking dibdib ang kanyang luhaang mukha.

To comfort her sinabi ko na lang na pasasaan ba at malalagpasan din niya ang mga pagsubok.

Financially broke din siya. Naisip ko ang kalagayan ng kanyang anak. Mabilis kong inilabas ang aking check booklet. Inabot ko sa kanya ang kaunting halaga na makakatulong sa kanilang mag-ina pansamantala. Ayaw niyang kunin noong una pero nang sinabi kong “utang iyan and pay when able” ay tinanggap din niya.

Hanggang sa paguwi ko hindi maalis-alis sa aking isipan ang naging kapalaran nina Ben at Luisa. Naisip ko tuloy na parang sugal din pala ang pagaasawa. Minsan panalo ka, minsan naman ay talo ka.

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18 Responses to “Without Gloria…(Gaano Kadalas ang Minsan)”

  1. Colegialagirl Says:

    Without Gloria in Malacanang glorya ng buong bansa, magkakaroon na ng katahimikan, at ang pag-unlad ay di nalalayo. Pero panatiliin mo siya sa puwesto, ang pangarap ng bawat isa ay guguho.

  2. Colegialagirl Says:

    Ben and Luisa’s story is very scary. Marriage does not guarantee a successful relationship. After marriage, the couple should start to unlearn individual practices detrimental to sound marital life. One has to sacrifice certain principles and adjust with that of his/her partner.

    It takes two to tango and so with marriage. Failure of marriage can not be attributed to one party alone. Both are responsible to it and bear all the consequencies.

    The only problem here, it is the children who suffer most from a broken home.

    As the Bible says, what God has put together let no one asunder.

    Getting into marital life takes a lot of preparation. There is no one particular formula that guarantees a happy and lasting marriage. It is a life time process of knowing and accomodating each other. The only thing that this requires is trust and confidence on each other that they can work out a happy marital life.

    Broken marriage is costly both socially and economically… Segundina’s story explains it why. And would you believe that Segundina used to be a marriage counselor, and very effective too? We both attended training on family counseling, we both practiced it.

    The only problem, we did not apply what we learned personally. Still some guys run away from us when we start to lecture on them how to proceed with courtship, prepare for engagement, and co-manage a family. And when Segundina tries to apply compatibility test and assessment, like an old warrior they just fade away. Hehehe.

  3. haydeenkoi Says:

    Your story today is very nice. I like it because it gives me very much nformation on how to management your family.

    With regards to Gloria, she is not contentment to retire anymore. She wants to be the leader of this country from today and forever right? What we do you see is to impression upon her mental facilities to behave and be a responsible leader.

    I am congratulation for Seg because she is very kind to someone who has the problem of the family and who has no money also to take care of one child outside the marital contract.

    Keep going Segundina with the good habit because you will be rewarding in the future development.

  4. haydeenkoi Says:

    O Colegialagirl knows how to take care the family like the husband and wife relationship and take care of the needs of everyone else. How come you can advise the marriage husband and wife with problem situation if you yourself has no husband yet? You must be very good to observe people like in your house so you know what I mean. Now that skill is specially yours only, but practice makes perfection from everyday.

    Okay ka Colegiala, but better have husband so we believe in you already. Your theory is good but we need experience to make you to be in acceptance of our perception what a marriage counselor that is to be.

    Sorry for the suggesment, take it or leave it. I shall return again one way or the other.

  5. haydeenkoi Says:

    Sorry I need to say this to all of you before forgetting it badly. In marriage situation, it is give it now but not pay later. What I means is that after the wedding and honeymoon, you now be responsible to make the other part happy, very understanding, very forgiving, and action must be now that speaks louder than words.

    In marriage Segundina you must be careful. Better late than sorry, aren’t you? Young people you must remember this without failure, marriage is not like oral entry now and exit later. Marriage to me is forever, no return no exchange.

  6. KapitanKidlat Says:

    Pinaguusapan sa CD kung matutuloy bang kakandidato sa 2010 presidential elections itong si Sen. Gordon. May katanongan ngayon, after na nag-split iyong Smartmatic at TIM na siyang nanalo sa bidding ng COMELEC for the automation of 2010 presidential elections. Kung maaantala ang automation, baka babalik na naman tayo sa mano-manong bilangan. Dito natutuwa ang mga ganid na operators ng dagdag-bawas sa bilangan ng mga boto. The highest bidder and siyang madadagdagan at mababawasan naman iyong walang pondong pandaya, hehehe.
    Ang nakakatako dito, manalo man sa bilangan kuwari si Sen. Gordon baka “ma-garci” naman siya sa bilangan wala rin.
    Sa isang banda may election ba kayang mangyayari? Totoo kaya na kusang sinasabotahe raw ng mga makapangyarihang tao ang automated election para hindi ito matuloy (Noel) kung hindi man may pagkakataon na naman gumawa ng kalokohan itong mga dagdag-bawas operatos.
    Hay buhay alamang ng naman, oo. What is you say Haydeenkoi hahahaha.

  7. williamklose Says:

    i will not touch anymore the topic regarding gloria because we have the same point of view. what i want to talk about are the comments of sir haydeenkoi regarding to the story of mer. Meron syang point na mas magiging effective ka nga naman na adviser kung personally you experience it. On the other hand naman ay sa tingin ko hindi naman kelangan sa lahat ng oras ay na-experience mo yung mga pinapayo mo. Sa akin kasi natututo ako sa mga nakikita ko at dun sa mga karanasan ng iba. Madalas nga yun ang binibigay kong example sa mga humihingi din ng advice sa akin.

    Anyway, i will not anymore lengthen my comment. Wala pa kasi akong alam tungkol sa marraige eh. Baka mapahiya lang ako if im going to amplify this topic. He he he… Hindi pa kasi ako kinasala. Wala pang makita at walang pumapayag eh. Ha ha ha… Teka nabanggit mo Mer yung test na binibigay ni Seg sa mga lalake regarding courtship. Sounds interesting, paki post nyo nga dito. He he he…

  8. Colegialagirl Says:

    Napadaan lang ako magandang binibini dahil hindi ka pa nagpaparamdam sa akin. Busy ka ba senyorita? Is there anything I can not do for you hahahaha.

  9. MRivera Says:

    masyadong dinaramdam ni Seg ang nangyari sa kanyang kaibigan.

    sarap naman niyang magmahal.

  10. Haydeenkoi Says:

    Hello ma’am Seg and to all my friends here, my grandson is kind enough to build a blog for myself. He is also patient too to improve the grammar and the English of my article.

    Ma’ams and sirs I gladly envite you all to come and see. Just click daw my name over and above and you’ll be there.

    Thanks very many to all of you.

  11. joy Says:

    Ma’am Mer hinahanap po ba ninu c ma’am Seg? Nasa lakaran ngayon at ayaw iplam kong nsan cya. May guwapo pa cyang ksama… Ay, nadulas hehe. Hindi po… bka mapglitan ako nito. Marmi po cla at parang official bsness ang trip.

  12. Cocoy Says:

    I’m low batt and suffering from erectile dysfunction.It has been almost a month since I’m away from blogging. Being overstressed with all things going in life I just decided to take things easy after Laparoscopic gallbladder surgery and tumor removal on my colon, letting myself not to be worried about not blogging, hardly reading weblogs. missing all interesting things around… What is more important I also took a break from my cooking,dish washing, laundry and chauffeur’s job here at SBMA being the CEO of IBM.

    I guess it’s time to come back. It similar to a feeling of coming back from recovery room seclusion that wasn’t too short.The doctors gave me an extension ( not my penis which those nurses loved to insert it on catheters) but an extended stay to enjoy the beautiful life.

    And, of course, I missed some interesting things happened over time.

    -Has anybody else noticed that most news stories about politicians’ affairs are really about women?

    There are women in them, of course. There’s the Wronged Wife of Jose Pidal, who is often portrayed as a victim in stories that frame her in a domestic light, focusing on how she is “coping” and whether “she’ll stand by her man, the Cheating Husband.To end those abuse, according to some naughty internet pundits: Gloria Arroyo underwent removal and replacement of breast silicone implants at a hospital in Muntinlupa outside the National Bilibid Prisons. She has now two watermelon sizes breast hanging on her chest.

    It was the right thing to do, after Gloria Arroyo’s term ended maybe,she’ll drive her own Lamborghini or Maserati, those sports car,the airbag won’t inflate if the driver is less than 5 feet.Kids are not allowed to drive those cars and in case on a head-on collision if Gloria Arroyo ran through a red light and crashed her car into another vehicle at a busy crossroad and the two cars were crumpled past recognition in the crash, her silicone breasts acted as airbags and saved her life,

  13. Segundina Says:

    Manong Cocoy get well soon. Kailangan ka ng ating bansa kahit nasa Amerika ka pa. Inaabangan namin ang iyong pagpanhik sa Kongreso.

  14. Segundina Says:

    May mga babaeng ipinanganak daw na nagdudulot ng salot sa bayan. Tadhana bang nagbigay sa kanila para sa atin nang masubok ang ating katatagang bilang mga mapayapa, progresibo, at marangal na mamayan? Dapat lang na tumayo at ipaglaban ang tama sa pagmamalabis ng iba.

  15. Segundina Says:

    Joy and Colegiala namiss ninyo ba ako? Ako rin. Pero maguusap tayo ng mahinhinan joy. May mga bagay na dapat kang ipaliwanag sa akin.

  16. williamklose Says:

    welcome back seg. hindi lang sina mer at joy ang naka miss sayo, lahat ng tao dito ay na-miss ka. ano ba ang bagong balita? share mo naman yung mga adventure mo nung mga araw na wala ka dito.

    @Mang co2y

    Get well soon po. Ipagdadasal po namin ang mabilis nyong paggaling.

  17. Segundina Says:

    Thanks william and to all na nagsasabing na-miss ninyo ako hahaha. Isang family gathering lang ang lakad namin at nang makapagbakasyon naman sa City of Pines. Mali naman itong ibinalita ng magaling kong SA (student assistant). Dapat ipaparepaso ko uli sa kanya ang “scientific methods of data gathering and processing” nang hindi siya pumapalpak sa mga ibina-balita hehehe.

  18. williamklose Says:

    haaaaaaaay…. salamat. akala ko wala na akong pag-asa sayo seg eh. hehehe… nagbakasyon din kami last week. nagpunta kami sa farm para makita naman ng family kung ano na ang mga tanim doon. pag-free ka kwentuhan tayo sa mga happenings sa vacation natin… kwentuhan natin yung mga kasama natin dito.🙂

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