The Measures of Happiness –Magkano ang iyong kaligayahan?

Gusto ko Happy Kayo (I want you to be happy)” – Sen. Juan Ponce Enrile.

It has been said that life is a combination of joys and sorrows. Life is a game, and it is up to us how to play and win. But every person deserves some kind of joy and happiness in his journey to this life. But what makes a person happy?

To be happy one should know what does it mean to by happy and the sources of human joy/ happiness. The index of happiness vary from “people to people and from culture to culture.” What is treated as happiness to some may be rejected by others.

There are several school of thoughts which try to define happiness.

1. “Spiritualistic School of Thought”, states that real happiness is confined only in the spiritual mode of life.
2. “Materialistic School of Thought” upholds that real happiness lies simply in the conduct of materialism.
3.“Rationalistic School of Thought” stresses that only reason/wisdom and logic can attain happiness.
4. “Islamic School of Thought” locates happiness in the three types of life: the spiritual, the material and the rational are together essential elements of real happiness life.

But what is “real happiness?” For many religious believers they say it is a state of perfection attainable only in the life hereafter. Unfortunately happiness in this context happiness is not in our world. Religion tells us that real happiness happens only when people will receive eternal reward for their good deeds on Earth.

Likewise religious teachings, doctrines and philosophies “shield people from painful realities, such as human immortality, the lack of ultimate justice, and the ravages of an indifferent natural world.” Of course there are studies which support that religious believers are happier than non-believers around the world. It is because they experience a “sense of social support, as well as sense of purpose and hope for the future.” Take it from them, if you negate the egos of the heart, you will experience relative peace and happiness. That is if you agree with the religious people that happiness is not confined only to materialistic things but to the blessings and submission to the Lord Almighty God.

But at the passage of time religion and materialism now combine to induce one’s happiness now and hereafter. So Chalmers introduces three things that will make a person truly happy in this world: 1) someone to love, 2) something to do, and 3) something to hope for.

In the practical side of life, the poor believes that it’s economic prosperity that could bring happiness in this life. But this is not guarantee however for one to be ultimately happy because at the arrival of enormous wealth his life will be stressed on how to keep and make his wealth grows. Senator Manny Villar who raised from rags to riches is now haunted by the C-5 controversies. Wealth can be a source of happiness, it can also be a source of pains, sorrows and humiliations.

Yes the concepts of happiness have changed in our modern time. Happiness is not something that happens; not even a result of good fortune, and something that money can buy. It does not depend on outside events but how we interpret them ourselves. “Happiness, in fact, is a condition that must be prepared for, cultivated, and defended privately by each person. People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives.”

Ang kaligayan daw ay nasa isip lang. Papano naman kung kumakalam ang iyong sikmura? Para sa akin ang kaligayahan ay isang bagay ng hinahangad, minsan iyong makakamtam. At kung minsan naman ay mabibigo ka. Ang kaligayahan sa isang banda ay ang patuloy mong pakikibaka sa buhay at pananagumpay. Ang tunay na kaligayahan ay bunga ng ating dugo at pawis, paghihirap, at pagpupunyagi. Wala sa kamay ng mga pulitiko at pamahalaan. Instrumento lang sila at bahagi ng pagpupunyaging iyan.

Ang umaayaw daw ay hindi nagwawagi, ang nagwawagi ay laging maligaya.

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18 Responses to “The Measures of Happiness –Magkano ang iyong kaligayahan?”

  1. Mrivera Says:

    May katapat bang halaga ang kaligayahan?

    Ang alam ko sa Ermita maraming ipinagbibiling kaligayahan.

    May malaki, may maliit.

    Baka doon galing si Tandang Johnny at nakabile ng medyo katamtamang laki ng kaligayahan.

  2. Colegialagirl Says:

    Ang ligaya daw ay hindi nasusukat sa laki ng iyong ari, I mean pag-aaring material. Nasa isip at puso daw ang tunay na kaligayahan.

    Sabi ng mga kaibigan kong monks (hindi monkey) kapag ang iyong pagkatao at pangangailangan sa buhay ay maging simple lamang at kapag inabot mo na ang punto sa iyong buhay na ikaw ay isa lang matter occupying a place and time in space, ay maabot mo na raw ang tinatawag na Nirvana which is the ultimate happiness.

    Sa akin naman happiness is how you do things yourself. Kapag lahat ng mga ginagawa mo sa buhay ay walang patutungohang maganda, magdurusa ka sa bandang huli. Gaano man kahirap ang pinagdadaanan mo sa buhay ngayon kapag ikaw ay masigasig sa paggawa ng mga bagay na mabubuti a kapakipakinabang para sa lahat, darating din ang araw na makakamtan mo ang kaligayahan.

    Ang kaligayahan ay isang proseso lamang day tito Magno. It is not the end itself. Maaring masaya ka ngayon bukas makalawa ay malulungkot ka na naman at maghahanap ng lunas ng iyong pighati at kalungkotan sa buhay.

    February na pala, ang lamig ng panahon. Sayang ang mga gabing ako’y nag-iisa sa piling ng aking unan at abrasador. Hehehee!

  3. Mrivera Says:

    Tama ka, Mer.

    Hindi kailangang maging materyalistiko ang tao upang makamatan ang ligaya at katiwasayan. Tama na ‘yung meron kang sapat para sa iyong pangangailangan at kung sosobra ay ibahagi sa mga kinakapos na kamag-anak.

    Ika nga, charity begins at home.

    Nakow, February na nga pala. Kaya pala medyo nawawala na ang sobrang lamig dito sa aking kinalalagyan. Hindi na kailangan ang thermal blanket. Tama na ‘yung tubig na galing sa thermos ang ipapaligo.

    Mer, malapit na ang summer. Nalampasan mo ang malalamig na magdamag. Puwede ka nang humanap ng tagpaypay sa gabing maalinsangan.

  4. secondlady Says:

    Hehehe, para sa iyo kuya at kay Mer para lalo siyang maghahanap ng magpapaypay sa kanya.

  5. secondlady Says:

    Mer nalalapit na naman ang Valentine’s day, nakawala na naman iyong ating mga prospects.

    Try and try na lang sis baka sakaling may darating din na tagabuhat ng ating mga bags, sapatos, at saka make-up kit.

    Kung walang magbibigay sa atin ng mga rosas sa Valentine’s day, dating gawi, padalhan nating ang ating mga sarili. Hehehehehehehe!

  6. Segundina Says:

    Binabawi ko na, may nanliligaw na pala sa iyo. Ang lagay kung hindi pa ibinalita sa akin ng kumare mo buong akala ko ay parehas lang ang ating kapalaran sa daratin na Balentayns Dey.

    Kung magkaigi kayo, isama ninyo ako sa iyong date. Hehehehehe.

    Kung hindi, hindi na kita kakausapin.

  7. Colegialagirl Says:

    Bastos ka. Nagkakalat ka ng tsismis. Wala ngang naglalakas loob. Ikaw kaya tumambay ka lang sa mga kapehan,may mga MMMM diyan na feeling young. Tignan ko lang kung papaano ka maki-pagdate na may akay-akay kang alaga, hehehehe. Caregiver’s love, ha-ha-ha-ha!

  8. Colegialagirl Says:

    Di ba attracted sa iyo iyong isang Atty. diyan na tumanda nang binata? Pagkakataon mo na!

  9. Mrivera Says:

    Nagkakabistuhan na ‘ata ang dalawang dalaga.

    Hige, kahit malapit na sa hukay basta makahigop kami ng mainit na sabaw.

    Mer, hindi lang Caregiver’s Love. Pamper’s Love na din ‘yun.

  10. chi Says:

    Kanya-kanyang level yang happiness, yung iba ay mababaw ang kaligayahan samantalang ang iba naman ay malalim.

    Ako, tawa lang ay hapi na!

  11. Mrivera Says:

    Baliw ka talaga, mREnG CHI,

    Meron ba namang iyak lang ay hapi na?

    Magpakaige ka nga diyan.

    Ako lang ang abnormal dine. Huwag ka ng sumali. Magkakadalawa pa kata, mawawala silang lahat dito, hala ka.

  12. Doc.bobonyo Says:

    Alam ni Mer ang sinasabi niya tungkol sa caregiving.

    Mahirap magalaga ng mga matatanda, kailangang ng matinding pasensiya at saka pagmamahal. Ewan ko kay Seg. kung tatagal siya kahit isang araw sa pagaalaga ng mga matatanda.

    Iba ang counseling sa actual na pagaalaga physically ng mga matatanda. Nandiyan lahat ang challenges. Sanay si Seg sa counseling pero iba na kung nursing care ang pinaguusapan.

    Maganda ang kumbinasyon ninyo. Puwedi kayong magtayo ng homecare ninyong dalawa. Kung kailangan naman ninyo ang serbisyo ko available ang inyong lingkud.

  13. Doc.bobonyo Says:

    Maraming level nga ang kaligayahan, pero sa aking punto de vista naman ay wala nang hihigit pa sa ligayang nadarama if you are at peace with yourself.

    Wala nang hihigit pa sa spiritual joy dahil ang pinanggagalingan ng iyong ligaya ay sa ating Diyos. Iyong material na kaligayahan ay pansamantala lamang, pero iyong kaligayahan na nangagaling sa puso mula sa Diyos ay wlang katapusan.

    Ito ho ang aking paniniwala, at marahil ay magkahalintulad din tayo sa maraming bagay bagamat sinasabi nila na bawat isa sa atin ay may kanya-kanyang pananaw sa buhay.

  14. chi Says:

    Hahahaha!!!

    p’rengMags, alam mo naman na mababaw ang aking kaligayahan. Basta natawa ako, lalo kung bunghalit, ay super ligaya talaga ang aking pakiramdam.

    Kadalasan nga ay abnormal daw ako sabi ng partner ko sa buhay dahil kahit konti lang ay napapatawa ako kaya hindi ako pwedeng tumira sa Finland kasi ay bawal ngumiti at tumawa dun.

  15. chi Says:

    Ako naman docB, kung maligaya ako dala ng spirituality and tawag ko dyan ay contentment, ang divine happiness.

  16. Mrivera Says:

    Kawawa naman pala kami.

    para pala kaming Morse Code na mahirap ispelengin. Pero ano ba ang mahirap sa ispeling na M-A-T-A-T-A-N-D-A? Aray!

    Ngihiiiiikh!

    Doks, paki-esplika lang dahil ako’y naguguluhan.

  17. Segundina Says:

    On Laughter

    Laughter is a great stress reducer. If you have never read
    Norman Cousins’ account of his experience of self-healing as
    described in Anatomy of an Illness, I encourage you to do so.

    When diagnosed with an incurable illness, he brought a movie
    projector into his hospital room and watched reel after reel
    of old classic comedy movies, laughing himself into
    hysterics. He found he could relieve his otherwise
    significant pain on a consistent basis through laughter.

    That practice, along with some other novel therapies,
    resulted in his healing. He left his prestigious
    journalistic career and taught on the faculty of a major
    medical school about the power of the mind and emotions in
    healing the body of disease.

    Next to love, laughter has been described as the second-most
    powerful emotion we can express. It has been said that
    laughter is like internal jogging — it stimulates the
    respiratory system, oxygenates the body, relaxes tense
    muscles, and releases pleasure-producing chemicals in the brain.

    You cannot laugh and be mad, laugh and be tense, laugh and
    be stressed. Laughter is low-calorie, caffeine-free, and has
    no salt, preservatives, or additives. It’s 100 percent
    natural and one size fits all.

    Laughter is truly God’s gift to humankind. You can get high
    on laughter but never overdose. Laughter is contagious —
    once it starts little can be done to stop it. Laughter never
    felt bad, committed a crime, started a war or broke up a
    relationship.

    Laughter is shared by the giver and the receiver. Laughter
    costs nothing and it’s non-taxable. Laughter is a trend-
    setter. If we can find ways to laugh first thing in the
    morning, it may in fact set the trend for the rest of the day.

    Let me close by telling you the most important use of
    laughter I have ever discovered: The ability to laugh at
    ourselves. I stopped taking myself too seriously years ago
    and it was the best decision I ever made.

    Don’t get me wrong — I’m still serious about what I do. But
    not so serious that I can’t be the first one to laugh when I
    mess up (which happens all too often — it’s why I spend so
    much time laughing!).

    When you’re the first person to laugh at yourself, you leave
    little room for others to laugh at you.

  18. Segundina Says:

    Tawanan mo ang iyong problema.

    Pero iyong problema ng pamangkin ng manong Freddie, hindi na katawa-tawa iyon.

    Ang nakakatawa ay iyong pagpapatawa nina Pokwang, Ai,Ai, at iyong gawain ng kumare ni Mer tuwing nagpupunta sila ng Mall.

    Muntik na naman siya. Ano ba iyan Mer? Magdala ka nga ng maraming diatabs para hindi laging nalalagay sa alanganin ang kaibigan mo.

    Biro mo sa Greenbelt ng Makati na naman siyang muntik-muntikan niya.

    This time sa taxi sila nakasakay. Mer? Puwedi ba ako na lang ang lagi mong isinasama ha?

    Sumasama tuloy ang loob ko dahil mas pinipili mo pa ang mga kumare mo kay sa akeeeeen!!!!!

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